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Redefine Your Definition of Failure

Redefine Your Definition of Failure
Published: 19/06/2017

We have recently discovered, or rather rediscovered, that our youngest daughter is quite a faster runner. We figured it was perhaps time to get her some athletics training to help hone in on those skills. As my daughter and I set out to her first training session, she said to me “but mummy, what if I fail”. My heart sunk a little. Wow, isn’t that something we all feel from time to time. Of course my motherly response is “well sweetie, if you don’t try then you have already failed. Just do your best and enjoy it”. Such easy advice to give to a 7 year old. Such difficult advice to put into practice.


Some days we can set our goals high and feel like we have failed if we don’t achieve what we set out to do. But what if this was just the catalyst to make us better, or want to try harder, tomorrow or the next day. Then we haven’t failed at all.


Mostly our fears of failure are set upon the expectations that we perceive others have for us, or the expectations we have for ourselves. Perhaps it is time to look at redefining your definition of failure. Stop looking at the “what if”, the “if only” or the “why can’t I be like them”, and start looking at the real purpose behind what you want to achieve. Do you want to be better than someone else today? Or do you want to be the best you for the next 20, 30, 40, 50 years of your life.


Here are some strategies that will help you succeed in reaching your goals:-


1. Stop having aspirational goals and start taking action. Comments like “I need to lose weight” or “I wish I was fitter” are aspirational goals, which are a fantastic place to start, but you need to be prepared to take the right steps to help you reach those goals. For instance, if you want to be a more positive person, then you need to start by not whinging and complaining.


2. Make sure you have a road map of how you are going to reach your destination. If you want to get to Sydney, then don’t jump on a plane to Perth. Head in the direction in which you intend to end up. If you don’t know how to use the GPS, then seek the right advice from the right people to help you get to your destination.


3. Break your goals down to one day at a time. If you want to quit eating sugar, then start for one day. Once you have done one day, then try another day. Next, see how long you can go without breaking the chain.


4. Feel free to quit, but don’t allow yourself to quit till tomorrow. Finish out the day, sleep on it, and then see how you feel. Inevitably you will realise that it wasn’t so bad or that you actually feel better.


5. Surround yourself with like-minded and supportive people. Surround yourself with those people who want to help you succeed.


6. Realise that the easy way is never the easy way. 3 day juice cleanses, fad diets and 7-day fab ab programs will not help you sustain long term health. Have patience in the process.


What you may or may not achieve on one particular day is less important than the actions you take over a sum total of days, weeks, months and years. If you take each day at a time, you will set yourself up to succeed well into the future.


Written by Coach Kellie.

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